
Well it's been sometime since I last made a post. Without saying I am once again single. Although, I am currently seeing someone which I hope will be the one granted its only been like a week or 2, but I hope Callie is the one for me. But I digress as this post is not about her in particular just a shout out. But what I really want to bite my teeth into are these people that have no common courtesy in taking responsibility for there actions.
Now this is no way going to be a bashing on ex's post. I'm simply talking about the philosophical aspects here that I have observed. So in my experience I know who I am as a person. I know I can sometimes get possessive and obsessive in a way with the woman I am with. Now To me I do it in a very loving and caring reason. There are people out there that are these things and they do not bring to the table the qualities that show that one cares. I trust the woman I am with fully and believe in communication as a important foundation in any relationship bar none a must. I'm always up front and honest about my intentions which makes me a genuine person. So With that in mind lets move ahead.
If you just broke up with a person you said you love and then hook up with another person is that okay? Now I am going to be honest I have done this in my time in second life. Love is blind and lessons are to be learned. But, I feel what defines this argument is the fact if you learn from the recent failed relationship. If you are just going head first into a relationship because you don't want to be alone then you are just setting yourself up for failure. Once again I have been stung by this as well. The truth is being alone is just boring to me. I need someone there to talk to. To get to know. But I refuse to make the same mistake again. I will wait for the one I am with to make the first move before I follow so I do not get hurt again. But I digress back to the original argument which is did you learn anything from what caused the failed relationship. Was it more of a personal preference that was not satisfied or was it something that affected you as a person is what I would most likely ask my self.
In regards to if it was a personal preference ie the person I was with was obsessive and possessive as an example. I would ask this question did these two behaviors occur for the right reasons or the wrong reasons. Let me dive into that further. A person who is obsessive is someone who is thinking about a person to further there own agenda. Now the negative aspect of that pertains to the agenda benefiting the one individual instead of the couple where the positive aspect of a obsessive person is where they are thinking of the in respect from both sides to further a common goal. I feel there needs to be a sense of maturity on both sides to truly understand the difference in these concepts. This would go for a person who is possessive of course with different explaining the negative being not trusting the individual and the positive aspect being more of a caring aspect. These are definitely the aspects you have to think about as they mean drastically different things. I have a person who was obsessive about me and possessive for the right reasons then the wrong. Because I know at least if they had those behaviors for the right reasons then they be willing to be compromised with versus someone who only cares about themselves if I happened to have a issue with that. That is what you should ask yourself when it comes to a personal reason for splitting in a failed relationship. Did you do it for these reasons or did you just take the easy way out?
Now in regards to if it was something that affected you as a person there is a whole different side of the story. We as humans are not perfect any person that say they are perfect is simply a liar there is no such thing as nature has shown nothing is perfect. We live in a world of imperfection. So if you happen to meet someone that no amount of compromise can be achieved without drastically changing ones on personality and there very foundation then that is very understandable for a relationship to not survive. There should never be a insurmountable give or take in a relationship just for it to survive. It should be fluid and effortless. The less that has to be changed the better. I would say this is the most common reason for relationships to end.
So the moral to my story. Learn from your mistakes, but don't take them with you into a new relationship because your only setting yourself up for failure. Take things slow what seems to be nice at the beginning tends to fade away after a while. Find the person who you see with for the rest of your life rather then in the moment because then your only attempting to fill a need that does not equate into a healthy and long lasting relationship.
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